Dr. Miranda's Advice to Parents : 1 Life long Commitment + 1000 Interventions = 1 Healthy Child

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[Dr. Roberto Miranda]
  • Presenter: Dr. Roberto Miranda
  • Length: 4:29
  • Fecha: July 16, 2004

My advice to parents who have young children is the following: being a parent is a full time, labor intensive commitment. It is not something that can be done cheaply, on the run, whenever we have time. It is a mission that defines our life, that governs the way we live and the way we spend our time and order our priorities. Being a parent is a gift from God and has to be taken with utter seriousness.

That means that we have to invest a lot of time on our children. Those early years in particular, when the personality is being formed, when the sensibility is being established and affirmed. It’s like the foundation of the house and we know that if the foundation is not leveled, and if the foundation is not square, later on when you try to put walls there will be all kind of angles that are going to make it so much more difficult to do the rest of the building. So that foundation has to be perfectly established and that will determine the solidity of the rest of the house.

So I think, for our children it’s so important that the parents understand this, and that particularly in those first few years, our children see their parents as a constant presence in their lives, totally committed to them and to their well-being, spending time, it’s a ‘discipling’ kind of activity where you are in charge of the formation of this mysterious being and you have to let them see you and know you, and get to trust you, and you have to be continually infusing in them the teaching that you want them to receive. So you have to take time to go out with them, to play with them, to sit down with them as they watch TV and interpret for them what they’re seeing, to ask them questions, to get them out of their shell because many times adolescent and youth tend to be very much into themselves and simply don’t know how to reach out.

It is a full time commitment, I find that parents who choose to spend time with their children and to show them that they’re important and to be there, ‘discipling’ them. What do I mean by ‘discipling’? I mean as we see Jesus that He was always walking with the disciples, sharing experiences with them and interpreting those experiences for them, asking them questions and sharing His view of the world and of life, and of God continually with them. That’s the way parents have to be. It’s a full time job, you never lay down your responsibility. You’re taking advantage of every opportunity that you can to impart something and every experience that you share is a potential opportunity to interpret something for your child, to add little seeds.

I believe that the person that you produce, we can use that image for the moment, will be a result of thousands and thousands of individual interventions that you will carry out over the course of many weeks, many months, many years, and each one of those interventions will be like one little minuscule grain that you will add to the formation of an edifice. So we need to see every piece of advice that we give, every time you confront our child, every time we give unsolicited counsel, every time we go out with them and spend an hour or half an hour, all of these are little grains that we are adding to the formation of that building that we want to see formed. So we must arm ourselves as we go into parenthood, as we live our parenthood with that idea, that it’s a full time commitment, it is a calling from God and I’ve been given the privilege and the responsibility of forming this individual and therefore I have to accept it as something of utter seriousness.

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hola.dr.miranda me yamo ? perdone me por haora no.quiero.decir nombre.tengo 46 anos de eda no mensine.mi nombre.ok desde que naci en este mundo.naci para sufril sola mente estoy cansada de esta vida nunca he sido feliz.pues paso decirle.mi mama.se caso con mi papa por 20 anos.ysalio alcolico.abuso de ella y de nosotros somos 3 hermanos .2hembras 1baron pues por esa rason fuimos.a casa de crianza eso fue puerto rico.en aquel tiempo.nos separaron anosotros pequenos. yo soy la dermedio. y tuve.que cuidar amis hermanos. tenia yo 8 anos de eda. asi.estuve hasta 12 anos .pero yo se que.mi mama.tenia.que.dejarnos. yo me acuerdo.cuando. papa.me.tomo.en sus brasos .boracho. y pego abesarme.susia mente y tocar mi partes privadas. eso fue 8 anos y conoci el pecado. pue no tengo padre.el nunca mevio.como hija sino como mujer .mama dijo ante que tu papa avuse de ustede los entrego al gobierno.pues fue asi.nos separamos. bueno volvimos con mama yo tenia 13 y mi hermana 14 y.hermano 12 mas pequeno. yo dije por fin.con mama .pero mama tenia un pretendiente. fue padresto. vivio con nosotros alos 15 anos mi patrasto le dijo.amama.que tenia que salir de nosotros. oh el oh nosotros. pues fue nosotros 3 .hijos mi hernano se metio.en el visio de las drogas y carcel 2 anos mi hermana 16anos en.aquel tienpo tuvo 3 hijos y yo salia con diferentes ombres. rebelde por una madre que no cuido de ellos. yo y mi hermana no sabiamos nada de la vida oh nosque es peravamos ella nunca nos ablo de mentracion mensual.oh de sexo menos no fuimos ala escuela ningunos de nosotros .tu vimos una vida fracasada nosotros. no ninez.no.juventu no jugetes no escuela no amor. hoy endia.tengo mi mama tiene 71 anos yo la cuido a ella .mi hermana no la quiere y mi hermano la llama 1 ves al ano .pero .yo la perdono. hoy tengo 46 anos tengo 3 hijos.varones 27 y20 y18 serepitio lo mismo el padre de mis.hijo me maltrataba bebia tenia mujeres por donde quiera. me divorsie despues de 14 anos de matrimonio. y yebo 8 anos sola com mis 2 hijos que me queda yo vivo.en Bridgpor ct y el hijo mio mayor vive en Boston mass. se caso 4anos atras tiene 1 nena y mi yerna son felizes ellos. y ellos asiste asu cogregasion leonde juda . y yo no tengo el deseo de vivir camino hablo y rio como el payaso .yo no lecuento estos amis hijos por que cada uno tiene su vida programada mi hijo 27 vive en boston no tiene mucha comunicacion conmigo pues el es de otro noviasco que yo tenia y es rebelde pues mi esposo no loqueria a el y resibio.maltrato de el pero yo tambien fui maltratada .crasia.por su atencion prestada.Dr.miranda .Dios.lo bendiga por fabor esto es confidesir

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